Guide To Surprise Your Spouse

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Do you want to know what is the best part about being married? It's having your best friend by your side to experience new adventures.

Four years of wedded bliss is what A and I celebrated yesterday. The years seem to pass by quickly and the need or want for presents isn't there. What's more fun is surprising your spouse with small meaningful gestures. The gestures are almost always unexpected and will surely give the recipient a huge smile.

Sometimes imagining creative gestures can be hard. The mail could be brought in or the trash could be taken out, but I think it's fun to do something more than that. Today I want to share with you my Guide to Surprising Your Spouse.

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Go on a picnic. Okay, this might sound like a typical date activity, but pack everything for your spouse. Plan out the food or snacks, gather some waters or other beverages, grab a blanket, and pack the remainder of the bags or picnic basket. Trust me when I say that your spouse with love you for taking the initiative. Then, go off and enjoy the scenery of a local park or even your own backyard.

Pickup your spouse's favorite snack or candy. Food always seem to be the answer to anything and surprising your spouse with their favorite treat will put a smile on their face. Even if you and yours are health conscious, a little treat can't hurt. Or surprise them with some fruit. Package up the treat in some cute wrapping and it looks like a present.

Write encouraging notes. Use a dry erase pen to write encouraging love notes on mirrors that your spouse will see prior to heading to work. Or if your spouse takes a lunch to work, you can leave sweet love notes in their lunch. Unsolicited notes are wonderful.

Act like a kid and have a water balloon fight. Now, bombing your spouse with water filled balloons without their knowledge would probably make them not so happy. That smile you were looking for might turn into a few select words. If you know what I'm saying. Give your spouse fair warning so they can lose their electronics. Not only will your spouse have a huge smile, because we all love acting like kids, but you will have fun right alongside them.

Have a special meal cooked and ready. I don't come from a household that dinner is ready for my spouse and on the table every night he comes home. Ain't nobody got time for that. So, on occasion, it's nice to surprise your spouse with a home cooked meal ready to be eaten upon their arrival home from work, or wherever they are coming from. Set the table well in advance and keep the food warm in a low temperature oven. Then, pour the wine, serve up their favorite beer, or any other liquids you both enjoy.

Get some goodies for the nightstand. In case you missed the theme, surprising your spouse doesn't mean you don't get to have fun too. Arranging some lotions, massage oils, or personal lubricants on your spouse's nightstand will surely surprise them. The K-Y® LOVE Passion Pleasure Gel from Walmart is compact and can discreetly be moved to a drawer when guests come over. 

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I'm going to run off and think of more fun, creative ways to surprise my spouse and celebrate our fourth year of marriage with passion - love, adventure, and surprises.

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Do you surprise your spouse regularly? What are some of the ways that you surprise them? If you are needing more inspiration, you can find some wonderful ideas here.

The Perfect Marriage

I am sitting here looking out the window to a winter wonderland, reminiscing about the weekend. The one weekend of the year that is dedicated to love. Did you all have a wonderful Valentine's Day?

February 14th is a day that makes us conscious of showing and sharing our love. We might buy ourselves or our significant other a special present - chocolates, jewelry, or go out to dinner. It's a day of love that should be celebrated more days than just one.

A planned an afternoon of surprises. He made reservations at a BBQ joint that has the absolute best spicy moscow mule then we went to the movies. It was really a wonderful evening, until... A was playing with his wedding band during the movie and somehow it slipped right out of his hands. Here we are sitting in a dark room with theater style seats and he looks at me, "I just dropped my ring." My heart dropped and I began to sweat. Mind you, this is not the first time A has 'misplaced' his ring. In fact, he now has a replacement ring, but no ring will be the same as the one we exchanged our vows to.

We sat there completely distracted from the movie and asked ourselves if we should get on our hands and knees and start crawling around on the floor. You know, those creepy people that others call the security guard in for. This is exactly what A did and he could not find the ring in our aisle. We waiting until the end of the movie when a majority of the crowd left and they cranked those bright lights on. Luckily, he asked the group in front of us if they could check below their seats. It was there! Yippee!

At this point it didn't matter because I was still upset. And this is how today's post came about - how to have the perfect marriage.

There is no PERFECT marriage.
This is what makes being married fun. There will be good times and there will be bad. It is important to put more weight on the good and treat the bad as a lesson.

DO NOT compare your marriage to others.
What makes your marriage so special is the uniqueness of it. The relationship between you and your spouse is a snowflake - no two are exactly the same. Sure you might argue more than your coworkers or friends, but you might also love harder than their relationship. Once you stop comparing, you can focus on creating a fulfilling marriage.

Workout together.
Or do productive hobbies together. Anger can so easily creep up, so why not nip it right in the butt. Exercise can help create those happy hormones and you both can help encourage the other to beat their PR.

Take time alone.
Again, anger can so easily creep up. Sometimes all we need is a little alone time. Let your spouse go out with their friends or you do the same. Distance makes the heart grow fonder.

Ditch the friends and spend time together.
To go against the previous suggestion, don't spend too much time away from each other. Sometimes you need to ditch those plans with friends and just dedicate some time with your significant other.

Trust your loved one.
If you trust them, they can trust you.

Communication.
Try your hardest to have open communication. When it fails, try again. Think of your marriage like a business. If communication between departments or coworkers are not pristine, the company is hurting. Don't let your marriage hurt due to lack of communication.

The list goes on and on. Mostly because, there is NO perfect marriage. To create a list would just be impossible. How do you work towards having a perfect marriage?
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